Christmas, and New Year are some of my favourite parts of the year; it is an absolute pleasure to spend time with loved ones, and I love the sparkle, and the pomp, and circumstance of the festive period. Not to mention the indulgent rich food, but that is a different matter. I hope that all my friends, family, and readers have had a wonderful seasonal period, and I wish you all the best in 2015.
Speaking of 2015; I see so many statuses, and posts at this time of year along the lines of ‘New Year, New Me’, which I suppose there is nothing wrong with… However forgive me if I sound impertinent, but I cannot help but think ‘New Me’ lacks any real permanence. I am not one for the ‘New Year, New Me’ spiel as it just is not simply very realistic, and because I do not want to be a new me. I would rather be a better me, than a new me, and I do not think that making delusionary resolutions once a year is quite the best way to do that.
I do believe that reflection is an important part of life, and I believe in looking back upon my year; the good, and the bad, learning from my mistakes, and thinking about what I have achieved, the memories I have created, and the people I have shared these memories with.
Whilst I do not believe in New Year Resolutions, I do try to follow certain values, actions, and principles in my every day life. Sometimes admittedly I am not always as good at these as I would wish to be, but I am aware of this, and continuously working on it. I am no dictator by any means; I am not asking you to follow them, nor do I feel they are particularly unprecedented – nonetheless I have decided to share them with you:
- Love. A life without love is not much of a life at all. Love, be loved, be passionate. Let love, and passion be the forces that drive you. “Not all of us can do great things. But we can do small things with great love.” ― Mother Teresa.
- Laugh. As a rule of thumb I never take life terribly seriously; to use a cliché life is too short to be serious all the time. Laugh long, and often, and find amusement in as much as you can. I am fairly certain laughter is medicinal!
- Live. A life where you simply exist is not a life at all; to quote Jack London “I’d rather be ashes than dust” – live your life with as much intent, and purpose as you can. I believe you only get as much out of life as you put in. Make the most of what life gives you, “live deep and suck out all the marrow of life” (oh dear, now I am quoting Henry David Thoreau).
- Be kind, be thankful. Too often we do not appreciate what we have, how fortunate we actually are, what privileged lives we may lead, and we overlook how small acts, and gestures of kindness can make a difference to our lives, and the lives of others.
- Make your own fairy tales. I am not saying you should not dream (heck, I do!) but do not rely on others to fulfil, or complete yourself; Princesses, Princes, and Knights in shining armour are few, and far between in real life – write your own fairy tales, and add sparkle to your own life.
- Never grow up (within reason!). Whilst growing old is inevitable, growing up is certainly optional. Do not succumb to perceptions of what an adult is, and how an adult is to act. Live your life with integrity, and be ridiculous if you want to be. Make your own rules, and have dessert before dinner if you are so inclined.
- Never underestimate the power of a good hot chocolate. There is a lot to be said for small pleasures in life, and as far as I am concerned a decent hot chocolate is one of the best small pleasures out there. Marshmallows optional, but always a bonus…