Every now, and then I have a lot of my mind, and cannot help but go into a mantra esque rant. Well lately I have had a lot of my mind, and I’d like to share some points with you:
Everything you do in life involves you putting yourself out there, and when you put yourself out there you are risking criticism. You could very well be the nicest person in the world, and you would still have opposition. Not everyone is going to like you, or like what you do. Don’t let it get to you. Turn any negativity you receive into positivity, let it fuel you to do better, and rise above it. Quite often opposition results from petty matters such as plain jealously, or simply plain vindictive dispositions. So don’t take it personally, and take pleasure in the fact that at least someone is opposing you. It’s a far greater thing for someone to oppose you than for them to be absolutely indifferent to you, at least it shows they feel something about you. Most importantly never let it upset you, or stop you from doing something you want to do in life.
Integrity is one of the best qualities anyone can posses. Stand up for what you believe in. Never sacrifice a part of yourself for anyone else. You are who you are. If you change let it only be for yourself, and never anyone else. Don’t throw away, or hide away parts of yourself, embrace them, and use them to your strength, and advantage. No one else is quite like you, and you are special. You may have your downsides, but you have your positives too – focus on those, and build upon yourself; try, and develop as much as you can as a person… but only do it for yourself.
Yes, a bit of a cliché, but still a valid point. It may not be easy, however sometimes tough love is the only thing that works in life. Try to think of things in retrospect, and don’t give in prematurely. In the long run it will make the difference. Have a back bone, and certainly don’t give in.
Manners go a long way in life; do hold the door open for that girl struggling with her bags, do say thank you to that person that just passed you that pile of paperwork, do say excuse me as opposed to barging past, do apologise when you should, do say please when you request something. These are somethings people often seem to forget in today’s society. In fact the lack of general manners actually disgusts me. Do engage in common courtesy, and do expect others to do the same. Manners don’t cost a thing, and they really are priceless. There is no excuse for not having good manners, and remember chivalry isn’t dead.
The Victorian’s got something right, and that is the concept of the public, and private face. There are some things in life you should keep to yourself. In this day, and age with technology, and social platforms such as Twitter, and Facebook becoming integrated parts of our life it is especially important to watch what you say, and how you represent yourself. You are your own brand whether you realise it, or not. Everything you say, or do publicly including online effects your brand image. Present yourself in the way you want others to see you, and keep some things to yourself for your own good, and for the sake of other’s mental being well also (some of the things I read on my Twitter feeds, and on Facebook do certainly disturb me…). Nothing is private on the internet, and things do have a way of coming back to bite you on the arse literally. It’s mainly common sense, but if you want to be known for all the wrong reasons go for it. I can assure you that you will regret that decision one day. If people want to make themselves unemployable, or come across as cheap harlots on the internet so be it I guess, people never cease to amaze me in all the wrong ways – but I hope people realise they are better than that.
Imitation is always referred to as the sincerest form of flattery. Well when someone does imitate you in life it certainly doesn’t feel like it, in fact it can make you feel absolutely awful. It makes you want to be less ‘you’, but whatever ever happens don’t give into this. You have two choices; you can either rise above it, and take solace in the fact that some one is essentially a cheap imitation of you, or if it gets too much call them out on it. At the end of the day people only imitate people because they have something lacking themselves. Human nature is parasitical; obviously we all take little things from each other, but some people take it to piteous extremes. Do pity them, and just remember an imitation is never as good as the real thing.
I hope perhaps you’ll find something at least in here slightly insightful. Some of it may be patronising yes, but some things do need to be said sporadically.
So True fella. Such wise words
Your blog is always a great reminder that some people are just either faking it or trying so hard to be ‘it’ – a lovely source of entertainment for me and my friends! Written with so much irony, if only you had the intelligence to see it. Looks like you don’t even have the ‘face’ to do anything but be a passive aggressive little bitch. Not attractive.
Only further just proving my points true. Thanks for the comment, perhaps I’d value your comment more if you had the balls to use your actual name, and email address. Just saying
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Oh hello; that’s perfectly OK. We comment here to ground you, make fun of your juvenile abuse of the English language and snigger at the awfully airbrushed pictures of your wonky teeth. How fierce you are!
We’re still anticipating a blog about your next ‘luxury’ item. We all love getting up close and personal with you so what better than your electric toothbrush? It’d be the perfect mix to demonstrate your immaturity, arrogance and insecurities once again.
As aforementioned perhaps I would take you more seriously if you didn’t feel the need to masquerade behind a pseudonym, and a particularly awful one at that. Cowardice isn’t a particularly attractive trait.
I don’t airbrush my teeth; sure they are not perfect – but they are perfectly adequate thank you very much. However if you get off on insulting other’s aesthetics so be it, I’ll leave you to your low blows, and low brow pursuits.
I think you missed the mark with your electric toothbrush remark, but I suppose we can’t have it all now can we? It is my blog, and I will blog about what I like – if you don’t like it don’t read it, and may I refer you to points 1, 2, and 4 in this blog post.
Have a nice day! xx
Thank you for your reply, again let me reiterate that we love your blog; unintentionally ironic again we see! You are our low brow, superficial guilty pleasure. So please don’t change as who else can we use to grant us some perspective.
More amusing though is that you don’t yet have the sense to spend some of Mummy and Daddy’s pocket money on some veneers, botox or lip enhancements. Airbrush only does so much.
I love our pseudonym. Much better than one from LOTR!
So not only are you rude, you are ageist too. What makes you think I spend “Mummy and Daddy’s pocket money”?
I work full time to support my habits, and I don’t get “pocket money”, nor would I spend it on such things if I did.
Glad you enjoy my blog, and Lorien isn’t a pseudonym – it’s my name.
Well since you asked… You have the attitude of trust fund brat who considers reading Vogue an education in lieu of qualifications GCSEs. You work to support your habits? Yes that would surprise us (*sniff* *sniff*) as your moral compass does seem wonky too. We’re sure if we opened up the picture dictionary to ‘nepotism’ then you’d be right there. You can Google that one. Big love! x x x mwah
I am aware of the definition of nepotism, no need to Google it thank you. I have plenty of GCSEs also thank you very much, but yes I may not have engaged in further, or higher education.
However that is a personal choice, and doesn’t mean I will not, or cannot continue my education at some point if I desire to do so – nor is it particularly relevant. However I do love a good read of Vogue, it is a great publication.
I appreciate you spending your time commenting on my blog, I truly do, but at the same time I do not have anything to prove to you. You can question my morals, attitude, and my life all you want, but at the end of the day you are a keyboard warrior who gets their pleasure from being impertinent, and an absolute coward. I pity you! xx
Pity us? We lead the lives you could only dream of. Vogue is a great read yes, but then it’s not exactly the Financial Times is it? (Might want to Google that dearest and try not to be too let down when you realise the lack of fabulous accessories in it).
Bored of this now, you are a contradiction. Thanks for amusing us whilst we sip a few drinks in the Soho sun though. Say hi to Vanessa Feltz will you? Thanks love.x
Lead lives I can only dream of? I’d hardly call drinks in Soho something to be envious of, but good for you. Why would I read the Financial Times when I am not interested in finances, whilst it is a great publication in it’s sector I can respect that, it’s like me telling you to read Gardeners World, or something that doesn’t interest you. Simply pointless. Only the boring are bored, and on that note I still pity you. How unfortunate not only are you a coward, you are “boring” too.
I was just about to leave a comment about what an insightful post this was and how I found myself nodding along to all of it and then I scroll down through the pathetic jibes made by the little Troll that has left it’s ugly stench here. Such a charmer!
But in someway goes to prove how right you are in your approach to life and how ridiculously small minded they are.
Big love darling and keep doing what you’re doing – grace under pressure remember! xxx
Online Stylist, as an avid fan of your log I’m surprises to see you comment here. This 18 year old is a clear cheap imitation of what comes to you naturally and what money will never be able to buy this Lorien guy (style, straight teeth, class, looks to name but a few).
These ramblings are those of an arrogant 18 year old teenager who’s yet to experience life and really it does not stand up for those of us not sheltered by Mummy and Daddy.
Interesting to note Lulz got banned, too. So much for not rising above the haters, Lulz indeed. Your fronting convinces noone.
PS total fashion faux pas today honey you look scruffy. That is what you wear to work? Looks like you got kicked through Burton (and not of the Sarah variety). Wonky smile too. Do try harder.
One thing – of many (judging by the shameful aesthetic and personal attacks made here) – that ‘Lulz’ and ‘Really?’ have just proceeded to prove here, is point 1: You will always have opposition. Sadly for the two anonymous commentees, they’ve just proved themselves to be even more shallow than they accuse Lorien of being, and at the same time (further proving his point) very bothered by his quite frankly, very wise and insightful advice.
If either two of you, ‘Lulz’ and ‘Really?’, had even half a backbone, you would use a proper name on here.
But, on the other hand, I wouldn’t want to show myself up as a nasty piece of work either. Care to show us your own teeth before you continue to stick the knife in?
Lorien may be a relatively young 18 year old, however if you guys/girls/whatever you are had even an ounce of the sense and maturity that he has, you’d be in a much better position to comment as you have been. But then, if you did, those pathetic comments wouldn’t even cross your fingertips.
Lorien, keep on as you are.
Christ alive some people really are full of bile aren’t they? Not to mention having too much time on their hands. Good on you for entering into debate Lorien but you can save yourself a lot of time, effort and perhaps upset by remembering the golden rule of blog commenting: DO NOT FEED THE TROLL. Cunts (excuse my language, but they’ve upset *me* now)like Lulz get off on baiting bloggers with their faceless hating and thrive on any response; ignore them and they go away.
Keep on doing what you clearly enjoy doing my love, and don’t let a few childish fuckers get you down.
Hugh x